Hey lovelies, Happy Valentine’s Day! I have an exciting announcement for today ❤
I have finally decided to start a weekly meme that will be going on my blog! Every Sunday, I am planning to post a discussion on a controversial or thought provoking book topic for all of us to leave our opinions on. Hopefully, “Discussion Sundays”, (what they will most likely be called XD) will help me get to know all of you better and for us bibliophiles to be honest with each other, without judging or comparing ourselves to anyone else. The only things I will ask for everyone to do is to a) be true to yourself, even if your answers/reasons aren’t the same as mine/anybody else’s I would LOVE to hear it! b) be respectful to each other and don’t negatively criticize people’s comments/opinions. And that’s it! If you have any suggestions or topic ideas that you want me to talk about, please leave them in the comments below, and I will give it a serious consideration 😀 Sorry for the long intro, and let’s get started!
Today’s Topic: Insta Love in YA/NA/Adult Fiction
First off, what is insta love?
Insta love: When one/two people who just met automatically think that they are each other’s soul mate and can’t live without each other.
Well, I honestly have to say that I usually HATE insta love. I just find it unrealistic and unrelatable to fall heads over heels for someone you just met. Sure, there can be physical attraction, and there almost is in YA fiction. However, thinking someone is attractive or wanting to go talk to them is a completely different story than believing that you cannot live for a moment longer without them. (I mean you just did, like 5 minutes ago!)
As a reader, I just cannot believe that it would actually happen in real life, and I don’t want to cheer on the couple when I basically just met one of them a few pages ago. Furthermore, the depth of their romance is so much more shallow compared to slow burning romance. With insta love, you miss out on getting to know the characters’ strengths and weaknesses, what makes them furious and elated, and what their family/past life was like. If you basically don’t know anything about them, why in the world would you bother to read a whole book based on their lives?
Slow burning romances on the other hand, makes you crave for the characters to finally realize their love for one another and to just get the heck together! As you read the book, you are anxiously waiting for them to confess their feelings, and groaning when someone does something to mess it up. Basically, you are feeling as if you are the character themselves, and that it is you who is in a potential romantic relationship with a fictional character.
I personally have never read a book where an insta love worked for me. They are usually rushed and chopped, forcing me to not connect or like any of the characters. Some of the worst cases I have read would be Twilight by Stephanie Meyer, Matched by Ally Condie, and Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare. Especially Romeo and Juliet! Sure, it’s by the famous Shakespeare, but two kids aged 14 and 19 who commit suicide to be with each other even in death after spending only one day together? That probably will always top my most unrealistic fictional romances ever.
Anyways, I could probably talk about Shakespeare’s unrealistic romances for hours so let’s not even go there. The only situation that I think an insta love might work is if is during a heightened situation. Usually this happens only in a dystopian or science fiction setting filled to the brim with non stop action and inevitable death. As your adrenaline levels skyrocket, you can also probably be more easily attracted to someone. Another possible scenario might be if you were shunned or bullied when you were little and had never felt love from another human being. You are more than likely going to feel automatic trust and interest in the only person who has ever cared about you. One example I can think of for the latter scenario is Shatter Me by Tahereh Mafi, where Juliette has been hurt by everyone in her life because of her fatal powers. However, I don’t neccessarily think that it was a great romance between Juliette and Adam because they were too busy randomly kissing each other when they were running away from guns and potential death. (One of the most cringe worthy scenes in YA! I literally roll my eyes every time…)
All in all, I have to say that I definitely prefer a slow burning romance to an insta love. The characters are usually more developed and complex, and it is much easier for the reader to want them to be together. Romance definitely almost always plays a part in any novel, and I would really like to see more books featuring swoon worthy romances that are truly believable and realistic.
Thought provoking questions:
- What do you generally think about insta love in books?
- When is it okay/not okay? (Examples would be great!)
- Does it really affect your ability to connect or like the characters?
- Do you automatically DNF or dislike a book if you think it has insta love?
- What is the difference between insta love and physical attraction?
- What kind of romance do you like to see in books? (Slow burning, friends turned into something more, enemies into lovers, etc)
And I think that is it for today’s Discussion Sunday! I’m so sorry if it seemed a little too ranty/awkward but I hope that will go away as I continue to make more posts. I actually have a whole list waiting for me, so I can’t wait to see how this goes 😀
What do you think about Insta Love in books? I would love any opinions or thoughts on this topic! Let’s discuss in the comments below 🙂
Thanks for reading loves xoxo,